Further to my previous post, I am getting royally fed up with gossips. Quite why it is neccessary to take what someone's said, twist it slightly, and pass it on is beyond me. I am part of a country-wide network/community and gossip travels like wildfire within it. There is no six degrees of separation in it, it's more like two. So if something happens, everyone else knows about it. If something is said, you can guarantee you'll have a text from someone asking if it's true you said it...and more often than not, you didn't!
I'm not saying I'm an angel and that I've never heard something scandalous and passed it on. I'm also not claiming to have superhuman abilities to ensure that I remember things word for word and repeat them as such, without altering any inflection whatsoever.
I just do not understand why it's so effing difficult to keep one's mouth shut, and to not deliberately stir things.
Yours,
Claire "quite pissed off now" Routh.
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Urgh...don't even get me started on gossip....I, quite like you, fail to understand just WHY people can't keep their mouths shut and not spread anything they hear....I mean, c'mon....don't people realise that what they are hearing for one, might not be true, and secondly, it would be quite rude to talk behind other people's backs...
It's even worse when you live in a school where everyone knows each other and there is simply NO WAY for anything to stay secret for too long.
*nods* Durham University is a stupidly small world. In the circumstances, I thought that ten days' grace was quite impressive :D
And I sympathise with the issues of being part of a country-wide roughly-two-degrees-of-separation-community. Great for having mutual friends with apparent strangers, but everything does start to feel a bit inevitable at times, if that's the right word...
What I don't like is two-facedness: to bitch about someone as if they are the very spawn of Satan before acting as if you're the closest of friends the next time you see them. A bit of middle ground would be appreciated! Gossips are terrible, though. A friend of mine is an utter stirrer and he drives me up the wall; the moment I know he knows about anything is the moment I know that there'll be some kind of storm in a teacup before the week is out!
Although I agree with you all, I have to admit that I am guilty of being a bit gossip...not a malicious one mind! Light hearted gossip (if there is such a thing) like who snogged who or who has fallen out with who I don’t think is that bad. We all do it and if it’s something public anyway I don’t see the harm.
However, if the topic has been twisted or completely made up, then that’s where the problem is. There is definitely a difference between banter and bitchy gossip. People that get a kick out of blatently making up stories and changing events in their head just want to make a story more sensational for them to be listened to. I generally laugh at these people because there evidently isn’t much going on in there life for them to be meddling with yours.
It’s better to be spoken about, then not spoken about at all
There is also a difference between who is doing the gossiping about you…if a close friend of mine passed on something I told them in confidence, then I’d be pretty pissed of. But if an acquaintance saw me in the street with a boy of than the Mr, and started something about the relationship between me and said guy, then I don’t think I’d care. In a strange way I’d be flattered that they’d wanna talk about me to be honest! If they couldn’t find anything better to talk about, then I would feel it was more a reflection on them than me.
I gossip, I'll free admit that - I'd go so far to say it's hard to avoid it completely. I do try but I find myself being sucked in. Anyone who can avoid gossip, in my book, is a trooper.
Ignorance is bliss so to find out, without a shadow of a doubt, you're being gossiped about is not a nice feeling. To deliberately stir something up is more than a little uncalled for.
xx
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