When something happens to you...an emotional trauma, be it big or small... how do you deal with it? I find that generally, people employ the same tactics to get over things, time and time again. However lately, I seem to have changed somewhat, and I'm not sure why.
For years, when something's upset me, I've talked it through, largely with friends (online and IRL), and I've found that in the telling, it becomes less painful. A problem shared is a problem halved, as they say...or quartered, or eighthed, or sixteenthed, I guess.
However, this time round...I've found that I don't want to talk about it. At all. Talking about it sends jolts through me and I'd rather just hide my feelings deep down, and trust that they'll go away. But I'm not sure how healthy this is.
Apologies for the ramble. How do you get over things?
I don’t wanna talk
About the things we’ve gone through
Though it’s hurting me
Now it’s history
I’ve played all my cards
And that’s what you’ve done too
Nothing more to say
No more ace to play
The winner takes it all
The loser standing small
Beside the victory
That’s her destiny
I don’t wanna talk
Cos it makes me feel sad
And I understand
You’ve come to shake my hand
I apologize
If it makes you feel bad
Seeing me so tense
No self-confidence
But you see
The winner takes it all.
5 comments:
Time and Laughter I find are the best ways to get over something.
Whatever it is Claire, I know you're strong enough to get through it...you've been through more stuff in 20 years than I know some adults have been through! And you're a (generally lol) well rounded, balanced person because of it all.
Also writing it down. Whatever is bothering you, write it down if you don't want to talk to someone. In a way, just get it out of you, don't hold it in, as it will eat you up.
I write a blog entry...and then don't publish it. I'm very bad at talking things through.
I never talk about things - I get uncomfortable about it.
*hugs* :o)
Talking still helps, I think. But it's often not the 'obvious' friends who it's easiest to talk to. A rather surprising friend of mine has come up trumps lately, and I mean that in the least offensive way possible.
Hope it goes away. Or if it's not going to go away, hope it's as pain-free as possible.
:-)
Thanks guys. It will get better, eventually. Can't see it feeling like this forever. It was worse, it's just...plateaued (is that a word?!) now.
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